Let's face it. Movie screens today seems to be overbooked with caped crusaders and outer space characters from a galaxy far, far away. The romantic comedy, once regular fare from Hollywood, sometimes seems to be an art form that needs resuscitation. There's a hashtag on Twitter that I just discovered about six week ago. It's # FemaleFilmmakerFriday. On Friday, people tweet about women directors past and present. Lately, I've been craving a good romantic comedy and there isn't one at the nearest movie theater. Fortunately for me, HBO aired one -- one from a woman director who I've not seen mentioned for FemaleFilmmakerFriday on Twitter yet. And she should be mentioned. Nora Ephron directed Meryl Streep to one of her many Best Actress Oscar nominations (2009's JULIE & JULIA). Nora Ephron co-wrote and directed two of the best and most successful romantic comedies of the 1990s. America loved Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan as sweethearts in 1993's SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE and 1998's YOU'VE GOT MAIL. The 1998 box office hit, a modern-day remake of and valentine to Ernest Lubitsch's THE SHOP AROUND THE CORNER (1940), aired on HBO. Love, as co-written and directed by Nora Ephron, is a wonderful thing. Seeing YOU'VE GOT MAIL again was like seeing a cherished longtime friend.
The first time I saw SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE, I was a bit jealous. Tom Hanks is one of my all-time favorite actors. I became a devoted fan way back when he was dressing in drag on the ABC sitcom BOSOM BUDDIES. That sitcom was Must-See TV to me when I had my first professional TV job. I worked on the ABC TV affiliate in Milwaukee. By the time SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE was released, I had 3 years of VH1 on-air work to my credit, work which included hosting my own talk show and doing segments with fellow VH1 veejay, Rosie O'Donnell. The best friend supporting role she had in SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE was exactly the kind of work I hoped to book after my VH1 years.
But that was a minor thing. The major thing about my first viewing of SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE? I was in my first and only romantic relationship. I loved him and the feeling was mutual. I took him to a Manhattan preview screening of SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE.
Two years later, he had died. So now when I see SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE, I see the rage and heartbreak of the Hanks character in the first 20 minutes, the heartbreak that motivates the widower dad to move himself and his little boy to Seattle so we can experience the loopy romantic comedy with Meg Ryan that'll happen once he relocates. SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE opens with grief. A grief I now understand because I loved someone as much as Sam Baldwin (Hanks) loved his wife.
As for YOU'VE GOT MAIL...wow. That was only 1998. Yet, it was before cellphones, text messages, DVRs and social media the way we know it today. You could still find a studio apartment in Brooklyn for under $1000 a month back then.
Joe Fox (Hanks) is a big, successful businessman. He's corporate owner of a Foxbooks chain store that's gobbling up the independent "Mom & Pop" bookstores in New York City. Ryan's character runs a beloved little indie bookstore on the Upper West Side. They are rivals in local news features. However, they have no idea that -- with anonymous screen names -- they are online buddies on AOL. They are online buddies who are revealing their hearts to each but not their real identities.
The last few years for me have been full of occupational potholes and bumps. I never made really big money but performing on TV was work I loved. Work that enabled me to keep a roof over my mother's head. One show I worked on was cancelled in 2008. A bunch of us, except the star, were out of work. I didn't find another regular job until 2010 and then, a month after I started, the Recession hit that job too. Another lay-off. I went flat broke. My emergency fund had gone to help my mother. I could not find new steady employment. I lost my studio apartment and most of my belongings in it. I had to leave New York City to live with a kind-hearted friend out West while I attempted to start over. In the last year of his life, Richard lived with me in that studio apartment. Leaving it and leaving New York City crushed my heart. When Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan) makes the difficult decision to sell The Shop Around The Corner, she sends her online friend a message -- and I fully understand how she felt:
"...But the truth is, I'm heartbroken. I feel as if a part of me has died, and my mother has died all over again, and no one can ever make it right."
I miss New York City. Even more, I miss having someone in my life whose face lit up every time I entered the room.
In YOU'VE GOT MAIL, Kathleen's beau is an intellectual newspaper writer who seems to spend more on his column than he does with her. When her shop has closed and they are politely, mutually breaking up, he asks her if there's someone else. She replied, "No, but there's the dream of someone else."
I know that feeling too.
I miss filmmaker Nora Ephron. She gave us good, funny movies about love.
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