When I was the weekly film reviewer for Whoopi Goldberg's syndicated morning radio show, one of the films I reviewed was World Trade Center, a 2006 drama starring Oscar winner Nicolas Cage and directed by Oliver Stone. One character, above all others, touched my heart and crystallized something that needed to be said cinematically -- something that was said by a dear, wise friend of mine in New York City a couple of weeks after the attacks and horror. She said that this was one of the greatest tragedies of that September 11th morning: "Not all the people who were killed that day died knowing they were loved." We don't want to think about something like that but it's so true. Especially in a big place like New York. People can be casually "blown off," postponed or otherwise pushed aside because they aren't hot-looking enough or fabulous enough. Sadly, it's human nature. People who do care assume you know it and take you for granted. Why? Because you're always there. You'll always be there. Like water that always comes out of the tap when you turn it on. Until one day it doesn't. One woman in World Trade Center really got that. We didn't learn her name. She was billed as "Mother in Hospital" in the closing credits. I stayed through those closing credits to see the name of the actress who broke my heart in that bit part and elevated Stone's whole 9/11 drama in only about two minutes of screen time. Her name -- Viola Davis.
I guess that's the point of this blog entry. Let's try to connect. If you push away or ignore those who truly brought, bring or wanted to bring a bit of light into your life -- no matter how long -- then it's your own fault if you're lost in the dark of loneliness one day. You had your chance. If I was asked out to dinner on a starry September night now, my heart would be illuminated. Learn something from Viola Davis' character in World Trade Center. There was another non-star bit player in that movie whose performance really stood out to me. Michael Shannon played a Marine helping emergency responders.